Stop The Patriarchy!

by William Skink

While most people who heard the recent suicide statistics were probably alarmed and disturbed, for feminists and other social justice warriors who understand that the real problem in the world is men and the patriarchy we represent, there was some good news: men are killing themselves in significantly higher numbers than women.

If you have a problem with men killing themselves, just think of them all as misogynist douche bags who just want to die because they no longer can rape women at will. Even if they’re young men, don’t worry, because their deaths are even better—just think of all the raping that didn’t happen because they’re dead.

Some women are courageous enough to go even further and properly identify male members of our species as young as toddlers as just being rapists in the making. I don’t know why Julian Vigo thinks Feminism may have a misandry problem, it’s only natural to identify threats when so much historical trauma has been experienced. From the link:

This story of Cronus is what came to mind this past week when I found myself set upon by dozens of so-called “radical feminists.” I am obliged to put this term in quotation marks to refer to these women since this brand of radical feminism seems to have been hijacked by individuals who are very much out of touch with what feminism is about (eg. women), much less anything related to the tenets of radical feminism. By all accounts from what I have witnessed this past week, what these women believe to be feminism is merely a vindictive table-turning of history, dare I say a buffet of those women who are in any way tainted by their proximity to the male body—especially those women who have not spawned Satan’s seed: the male child.

What kicked this shit storm off was when a post I made last week on my timeline regarding a feminist event this summer which I might have been interested in attending. As a mother to two small children, my participation in such events is entirely related to my ability to bring my children with me, especially when an event is not a local one-day affair. So as with all logistical communications, I wrote and asked if I could bring my children aged two and five. This is the exchange I posted on my Facebook wall:
I just received this as an email for a “feminist” event:

“It is a female-only space so we do not allow male children.”

My response: “You have just written the most fucked up email I have ever received in my life. Happy not to attend. Wow!!!”

From this post I received comments like, “Why is that fucked up?” where I was expected to explain to an adult female who considers herself a feminist why barring a two-year old because he is male might present a moral problem for any group which not only calls itself “feminist” but which seeks to liberate all females from sex-based oppression whereby the mothers of these children are necessarily excluded. The irony in posing such a question made my head reel, but no sooner could I realize the incongruence of this assertion did another woman write, “I actually don’t understand, either. I’m not being snarky. I really don’t see why it’s wrong to have female-only spaces.” I had to underscore many times in these conversations that my objection had to do with being asked not to bring a two-year-old male to a feminist event, not the fact that, as per many social events, children in general were not welcome. My disagreement had nothing to do with “female-only spaces,” but dealt with the more serious matter of excluding small male bodies because of some deeply prejudiced views of males from birth.

I then reminded these women of the Facebook groups I have had to leave in recent years where some feminists had actually advocated for the abortion of male fetuses to counter the historical injustices of femicide and misogyny. I had left those groups upon reading this eugenical proposition and reminded these women last week that the disdain for and the planned elimination of male bodies from the site of the social is nothing other than eugenics. It was upon this basis that I protested the demonization of male bodies as a political strategy. I even, somewhat ironically, invoked the term “feminazi” demonstrating how a word so often misused by men’s rights activists, actually makes sense in this specific context of willing and orchestrating away males as a class, all under the guise of “safe spaces.” Certainly, “female-only spaces” is the lie these “feminists” tell themselves to commit to a essentialism of male guilt through birth.

Vigo wrote this piece last March, so she didn’t have the benefit of reading this Washington Post op-ed, written by Suzanna Danuta Walters, a professor of sociology and director of the Women’s, Gender, and Sexuality Studies Program at Northeastern University. The op-ed is titled Why Can’t We Hate Men? It ends with this:

The world has little place for feminist anger. Women are supposed to support, not condemn, offer succor not dismissal. We’re supposed to feel more empathy for your fear of being called a harasser than we are for the women harassed. We are told he’s with us and #NotHim. But, truly, if he were with us, wouldn’t this all have ended a long time ago? If he really were with us, wouldn’t he reckon that one good way to change structural violence and inequity would be to refuse the power that comes with it?

So men, if you really are #WithUs and would like us to not hate you for all the millennia of woe you have produced and benefited from, start with this: Lean out so we can actually just stand up without being beaten down. Pledge to vote for feminist women only. Don’t run for office. Don’t be in charge of anything. Step away from the power. We got this. And please know that your crocodile tears won’t be wiped away by us anymore. We have every right to hate you. You have done us wrong. #BecausePatriarchy. It is long past time to play hard for Team Feminism. And win.

So what can we do locally? One thing we can do is change our perspective on things that may seem upsetting—like this old white man in Butte losing his housing voucher. Instead of being upset, let’s celebrate! Hopefully he will be homeless by the time the cold comes, then winter will kill him off! By that standard Missoula isn’t failing homeless men when we allow them to freeze to death on the streets of our gentrified utopia, we are simply allowing natural forces to balance the historical inequities forced on women throughout history.

And don’t mourn Dancing Guy, Missoula. The dancing woman who almost always accompanied him to live music events is clearly better off without him. Under that interpretive dance veneer of hand exploding fireworks in the sky and reeling in imaginary fish was surely a controlling member of the patriarchy who probably forced his female partner to join him in producing their weird spectacle seemingly adored by Missoulians.

Going through just today’s Missoulian front page there are even more opportunities to celebrate, like those four dead male hunters starting to wash up down-stream and a missing 3 year old boy. Whoopee!

Even the Indy is getting in on the action with this week’s street talk, following up the question about who your favorite pop-culture father figure is with an inquiry about what you are doing to dismantle the Patriarchy. Young white man David Schacht knows how to answer. His favorite father figure is Caitlyn Jenner, and to describe his efforts to dismantle the patriarchy, he says: “I assistant-teach about climate change in Brooklyn. We have climate experts come in every week. We only have women experts of color.”

Yes, that is the kind of attitude we need from today’s young white men. We need them to actively exclude other men from even discussing the existential threat of climate change, because even Nobel-winning scientists like Steve Running are obviously just doing their work to satisfy the ego of their toxic masculinity.

So, if you come across something about Steve Running, like this from his Wikipedia page:

“A recognized expert in global ecosystem monitoring, Running was invited to serve on the board of the Intergovernmental Panel on Climate Change (IPCC). In 2007, the IPCC was awarded the Nobel Peace Prize “for their efforts to build up and disseminate greater knowledge about man-made climate change, and to lay the foundations for the measures that are needed to counteract such change”. Running made the following statement about winning the prize: “We’ve got to get past all the petty bickering and get to work. This is about a big transition for society over the next 50 years. The path we are on is unsustainable. What the Nobel committee is saying is that we’ve got to wake up. We’ve got to change the course of the whole world.”

Please remember, fuck that guy. Regardless of his accomplishments, he was born with the privileged cock of patriarchy in his pants and should therefore stop trying to influence the world around him. Right?

Which leads me to the cultural expectation that we should be celebrating Father’s Day this weekend. Why? What’s to celebrate? Masculinity is toxic. Phallic edifices of the patriarchy besmirch the earth. Also, Trump is a father, and anything Trump does is bad (like meeting with an evil dictator to deescalate nuclear tensions) so if someone like Trump can be a father, then clearly the entire role of fatherhood should be jettisoned to protect our children from toxic masculinity.

Or, to drop the sarcasm for a moment, how about we see the social wedges being imposed on men and women for what they are: part of a larger divide/conquer strategy to create and expand social divisions to fracture any sense of solidarity among the vast majority of the population not benefitting from rapacious, late-stage capitalism.

Happy Father’s Day!

About Travis Mateer

I'm an artist and citizen journalist living and writing in Montana. You can contact me here: willskink at yahoo dot com
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2 Responses to Stop The Patriarchy!

  1. Djinn&Tonic says:

    The Book Exchange Jun 14, 2018 8:21am

    This statement is from Rami and Ian Haddad, Vice Presidents of Northwest Book Exchange, Inc., Senior Associate Managers of The Book Exchange and sole inheritors. We are aware that a note our mother wrote on May 21st regarding what she believes should be an appropriate dress code, which was initially posted in the “business journal” we utilize to inform our employees of day-to-day operations, was recently posted on-line. As all of our employees know, we removed that note within less than 18 hours after it was written by our mother. The note was written solely by her while we were both out of town. I, Rami Haddad, called the bookstore to check in, due to the fact I had been out of range of cell service for the past two and a half days. I talked to a manager who said Rebecca had written a note regarding dress code that I should read the next morning once I was at the store. As soon as I read the note the next morning, I conferred with both the manager I had spoken with the night before and my brother. We all agreed that the tone and verbiage of the note was inappropriate and should be removed immediately, which is what we did. I removed it from the business journal less than 18 hours after it was written. The note was removed immediately weeks ago, well before the current public outcry and well before it was first posted online, which was June 5th. To any employees who were offended, we have sincerely apologized and do so again in this response.

    We take these matters very seriously. There has been an ongoing investigation, including trying to contact former employees, as well as trying to determine the specific nature of the allegations. Because the allegations are against a family member, we recognize the potential perception that we have a bias. Accordingly, we are having a female non-family member who is a legal professional run an independent investigation. The investigator has been instructed to conduct a fair and unbiased investigation, which will include both former and current employees. We must first attempt to ascertain the facts before we determine what actions may be needed.

    There have also been allegations in the press that a former manager was discharged in retaliation for reporting the aforementioned allegations. This is factually inaccurate and simply not true. If the former manager making these allegations is willing to sign an Employee Privacy Waiver agreeing we can discuss the details (and also provide the related evidence to you), we would be happy to share the true facts with you relative to that former employee. For now, all we can say is that the evidence will not support the allegations he is making.

    We want our employees, customers, and everyone involved with us to feel safe and comfortable. We, as the managers and day-to-day operators of the business, are 100% committed to providing a positive business environment for both our employees and our customers. The mere allegation that anything is happening in our store that makes others uncomfortable in any way has disturbed us greatly. We also want everyone to know that we will not tolerate inappropriate behavior in any form. After the independent investigation has concluded, we will take the appropriate steps necessary to remedy any and all problems that may be discovered. We thank everyone for bringing this to our attention and appreciate your patience and understanding while we pursue this in the most professional, legal and moral way we possibly can.

    Rami and Ian Haddad
    Vice Presidents, Northwest Book Exchange, Inc.
    Senior Associate Managers, dba The Book Exchange

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